Post by DonPost by Señor Popcorn-CoconutPost by Warm WormMen and women think differently on some levels perhaps, but we're far
more similar than different. In fact we're "one and the same".
Not even close.
2 eyes, 2 hands, 2 feet, sure.
But thats where the similarity ends.
There is plenty of documentaion out there about the differences between
men and women.
The one I find amazing is communication.
Even after almost 3 decades I am still confounded by some of my wifes
communication efforts, and she with mine.
That doesn't necessarily mean that it's from being male or female.
Yes it does, and I say so with extreme authority.
How?
Because I have spoken to thousands, yes, THOUSANDS of men and women
directly, one on one.
Remember, most upscale custom homes are designed for women.
Plus, I have spent the better part of 30 years paying very close attention
to the communication nuances of many women and especially one woman in
particular.
It wasn't until I started realizing that there ARE differences, and those
differences are HUGE, did I start to become a better communicator with women
in general.
Now, if someone says that what I say on this topic is wrong, that there is
very little difference in communcation between the genders, then they are
exhibiting their lack of experience.
Further, if that person claims the communication differences between men and
women is negligible than I will use their own track record as proof of what
I am saying.
Ok, so what are those differences?
I'm not suggesting there aren't any, only that they can seem a little
stereotyped, overblown and/or inaccurate sometimes.
Also, thinking about apparent differences (and responding to them)
might serve to fulfill their own prophecies.
Sex and sexuality appears to be a continuum of shades, anyway, rather
than male/female.
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I personally don't think you can pinpoint specific instances of differences
but rather methods of conveyance and I also think it stems from that thing
about hunter/gatherer.
Its in the DNA.
The best you can do is keep an open mind and pay extreme attention.
Then, over time the *stuff* I'm speaking of will become apparent and if you
keep paying attention you can go with the flow.
It works both ways, males are just as different to females as vice versa.
Do a google on the topic and I'm sure there are people out there much better
than I that can explain it.
It took me a few years, after being married, to realize what was going on
and then after extreme frustration and deciding to *figure this thing out* I
finally started to crack through the wall.
Now, I wonder about the differences in communication and its impact on the
failed relationships before I got married.
Frankly, I am even amazed that I ever did get married due to my ignorance on
communication.
Knowing what I know now, I don't know why my wife chose to marry me, and me
her.
We are a much, much better team now then long ago.